taken from an article, it made me wonder , are we all doomed as the human race ? how can we believe and change for the good of humanity ?
TEN TYPES OF TWISTED THINKING
1. ALL-OR –NOTHING THINKING: YOU SEE THINGS IN BLACK AND WHITE CATEGORIES. YOU ARE DICHOTOMOUS THINKER”. IF YOUR PERFORMANCE FALLS SHORT OF PERFECT, YOU SEE YOURSELF AS A TOTAL FAILURE. A MORE RATIONAL APPROACH WOULD BE TO SEE LIFE IN A MORE “UPSIDE”-DOWNSIDE” DIMENSTIONS. EVERY EXPERIENCE IN LIFE HAS BOTH AN UPSIDE” AND A DOWNSIDE”.
2. OVERGENERALIZATION: You see a single negative event as an never ending pattern of defeat. You arbitrarily conclude that one event that happened once will occur over and over again. “Always” and “never” characterize this type of thinking. For example, you may say “I’ll NEVER please my wife!” or “he is ALWAYS late for dinner!”
3. MENTAL FILTER: You pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it exclusively so that your vision of all reality becomes darkened. It is taking events out of context and concluding that the whole situation is negative. For example you focus on one or two rough spots in an otherwise great day.
4. DISCOUNTING THE POSITIVE: You reject positive experiences by insisting they “don’t count” for some reason or other. For example, you receive nice compliment and you say to yourself, “They are just being nice?” when receiving a compliment, a simple “Thank You” is sufficient.
5. JUMPING TO CONCLUSTIONS: You make a negative interpretation even though there are no definite facts that convincingly support your conclusion.
a. Mind Reading: You arbitrarily conclude that someone is reacting negatively to you, and you don’t bother to check this out. For example, “He thinks I’m unattractive!”
b. Fortune Telling: You anticipate that things will turn out badly, and you feel convinced that your prediction is an already established fact. For example, “What’s the point in doing that” She wouldn’t like it!”
6. CATASTROPHIZING (FATALIZING): You exaggerate things to the point of “blowing things out of proportion”. You expect the worst! For example, a small “spot” on the skin gets magnified to the point of prematurely diagnosing yourself with terminal illness.
7. MINIMIZATION: You minimize or deny your desirable qualities or accomplishments. You “gloss over” the positive. This is called the “binocular trick” where you look through the wrong end of the binoculars and see things much “smaller” than they are.
8. “SHOULD STATEMENTS”: You try to motivate yourself with shoulds and shouldn’t, as if you had to be punished before you could be expected to do anything. “Musts” and “oughts” are also offenders. The emotional consequence is guilt. When you direct should statements toward others, you fee anger, frustration, and resentment.
9. LABELING AND MISLABELING: You judge yourself instead of your behavior. For example, you say “I’m stupid”, Instead of “I’m a person who sometimes does stupid things!”
10. PERSONALIZATION: You see yourself as the cause of some negative external event which in fact you were not responsible for. You think that all situations revolve around you. For example, you are late for an appointment and you come upon some unanticipated highway construction. You conclude “They knew I would be coming through here at this time.”
**If you catch yourself falling into Twisted Thinking above, You can turn it around with POSITVE THINKING!!**
“YOU CAN, ONLY IF YOU BELIEVE YOU CAN!”